Get Accountability Right

December 21, 2023

Many leaders struggle to have accountability discussions get the right result. “Accountability” is a very common word these days because it is frequently done poorly. It often comes across as punitive. Leaders should feel more accountable for their own actions before blaming others.

This article outlines five principles of accountability that all begin with the letter “C.” These principles can help any leader do a better job in this critical area of performance management.

The five principles are:

1) Comprehensive and Balanced
2) Contribution
3) Care
4) Clarify Expectations
5) Collective Responsibility

Putting these five practices in play daily will improve the performance of any organization. Let’s see why it works.

Comprehensive and Balanced

This principle means that the leader must take the big picture of what is going on into account. Make sure that your feedback is balanced. Account for the good things they do as well as the times they fall short.

You destroy trust and rapport when you hold people accountable only when they fall short. Do not allow your accountability discussions to feel punitive to the employee. If most of the work done by an employee is positive, then most of the feedback should be positive.

Contribution

There may be a reason for falling short of expectations that is out of the control of the employee. Sometimes supervisor actions cause employees to fall short. Most people will do a good job if the culture is good. When supervisors micromanage people, they cause the shortfall within the workforce. They are often the root cause of the problems, yet they find it convenient to blame the workers.

Care

When giving feedback, treat the employee the way you would want to be treated if the situation was reversed. The Golden Rule provides excellent guidance in most cases. There are some rare exceptions where the Golden Rule breaks down. Suppose the leader enjoys being yelled at and confronted. If the manager demonstrates real care for the individual, the employee will usually respond well to the input.

You might say something like this. “The reason we are having this discussion is not to put you down or beat on you. I sincerely want you to do well and enjoy success. I care about you and want to enhance your reputation as much as possible.” You show you care as much by your body language as by what you say. Make sure you are sending the signals you want to send and check with the other person if there is any doubt.

Clarify Expectations

People must understand expectations to have any shot at meeting them. In some complex situations, you should write down what is to be done. Often, a failure to perform at the prescribed level can be traced to a misunderstanding between the supervisor and the employee.

Having the employee parrot back the expectation has the additional benefit in the event the deliverable is fuzzy. The supervisor can take the time to reiterate the specific deliverable before the employee attempts to do it. This saves time, money and reduces frustration.

Collective Responsibility

Stress that you and the employee are really on the same team. There is no need for you to be fighting each other.

Conclusion

These five C’s will help you create an environment where holding people accountable is more productive and effective. Try to remember these principles when you are dealing with the people in your life. Following the five C’s of accountability will make you a much more effective leader.

I have written other articles on aspects of accountability in the past. If you want more on this topic, try these articles:

Trust and Accountability
Leaders Must Accept Accountability.

Bob Whipple, MBA, CPTD, is a consultant, trainer, speaker, and author in the areas of leadership and trust. He is the author of four books: 1.The Trust Factor: Advanced Leadership for Professionals (2003), 2. Understanding E-Body Language: Building Trust Online (2006), 3. Leading with Trust is Like Sailing Downwind (2009), and 4. Trust in Transition: Navigating Organizational Change (2014). In addition, he has authored over 1000 articles and videos on various topics in leadership and trust. Bob has many years as a senior executive with a Fortune 500 Company and with non-profit organizations.




Trust is a Mirror

December 17, 2023

Here is an interesting observation where trust can act like a mirror. Other people know how you are coming across to them. You are aware of how other people are striking you. The reverse is not always evident.

You can guess how your actions and words are being received as you listen and observe body language. Recognize that your guess may not always be accurate. Would it be valuable to have a way to see more clearly how others see you? I think that would be incredibly valuable.

Why Trust is a Mirror

I believe there is a kind of “mirror” that can allow you to see yourself as others do. When you develop a relationship of high trust with another person, you create a mirror. You can know how you are coming across at any point in time with greater accuracy.

With trust, the other person will likely feel more comfortable expressing their feelings. They will often tell you when you are coming on too strong. It may be that you are being too pedantic, uncommitted, or duplicitous.

Why does trust enable this kind of feedback that is so powerful? Trust allows other people to feel safe telling you what they are thinking, without fear. In less trusting relationships, people are more guarded.

When trust is low, giving direct feedback often leads to unintended consequences, and that means damage control. Trust allows people to give you feedback with respect. That condition prevents the need to shelter from your reaction.

Trust and Fear are Opposites

I believe that trust and fear are incompatible. When you remove the fear between people, trust will grow spontaneously. My favorite quote on this phenomenon is, “The absence of fear is the incubator of trust.” Once trust is established, you have a greater chance of knowing how you are coming across to other people.

We are all a work in progress. Nobody is perfect as we exist today. A major part of life is learning and growing. I have always believed that when you stop growing, it is time to order a pine box.

Building Higher Trust

The obvious question is, “How do I go about building relationships of higher trust?” The answer is as simple as the question. You build trust by creating a safe environment for the person who would share information with you.

Part of the equation is to care enough for the other person to pick up on small cues in their body language. You must be sensitive enough to see the signals. Your past reactions have convinced the other person it is safe to share things that are difficult to say. Trust between you and the other person will kindle.

The analysis may sound like circular reasoning, but it has the simplicity and validity of universal laws. When you take a baseball and drop it out of a window, the result is without question due to a law we call gravity. Trust is the same way.

Create an environment where people feel safe sharing difficult messages with you, then you develop trust. That trust means you often can see yourself the way other people do. This knowledge will allow you to take corrective or preventive actions that you would otherwise not even consider.

Conclusion

Recognize the phenomenon is not absolute. Some people may still choose to hide their private thoughts. There is a higher probability of openness if trust exists.

An additional benefit is obvious. By creating a “real” environment with other people, you can tell them things that will help them grow. That reciprocal relationship is the basis on which two people can help each other on the journey of life.

Bob Whipple, MBA, CPTD, is a consultant, trainer, speaker, and author in the areas of leadership and trust. He is the author of four books: 1. The Trust Factor: Advanced Leadership for Professionals (2003), 2. Understanding E-Body Language: Building Trust Online (2006), 3. Leading with Trust is Like Sailing Downwind (2009), and 4. Trust in Transition: Navigating Organizational Change (2014). In addition, he has authored over 1600 articles and videos on various topics in leadership and trust. Bob has many years as a senior executive with a Fortune 500 Company and with non-profit organizations. For more information, or to bring Bob in to speak at your next event, contact him at http://www.Leadergrow.com


Leader First Impressions

December 5, 2023

For a leader, the first impressions are most critical. Let’s say you were just transferred to a new unit. What happens in the first few hours will determine your success for the next several months. First impressions stay with people until supplanted by ideas from events that play out over time.


Malcolm Gladwell, in his book, Blink, demonstrated how human beings can size up another person in an instant. The level of trust that will prevail during the entire first year is usually set during the first week. It is crucial to get off on the right foot with people.


Unfortunately, many leaders come into a new assignment with the wrong attitude. The impressions they make mean a rocky start. Here are seven things that can help you get off on the right foot in any new position.

1. Learn about the culture

Don’t start making changes before you assess the situation calmly. It is a mistake to come into a new job with the attitude that everything is messed up. Seek to understand the strengths and good performance that already exists. The best advice is to keep your eyes and ears open and your mouth shut in terms of reactions. Seek to learn, appreciate, and reinforce for the first week or so.

2. Establish rapport one on one

Meet with each employee in the new unit privately to chat about his or her role. Get to know the individual as a person. Be sure to put the person at ease with your demeanor, and indicate you have no hidden agenda. You will begin to form some trust between you and the person.

Asking questions about the employee’s family and hobbies demonstrates that you care. Sharing some of your own stories also tends to form a basis for trust. Many new supervisors like to ask what the employee would like him or her to do or not do. This simple question often brings out issues that have been lurking in the culture before the new leader arrived.


3. Build trust as early as possible

When meeting a new person, the basis for trust is in the answer to five basic questions. I call these things “The five C’s of trust.” As a leader:

1. Are you Competent?
2. Do you have good Character and Values?
3. Are you Consistent?
4. Be Cordial
5. Show you Care about the other person.


When you chat with new employees, keep these five things in mind. Work to answer all five of them as positively and quickly as you can.

4. Avoid pushing ideas from your former job

It is a good idea to refrain from bringing up the excellent policies in your prior position. Many new leaders make the mistake of saying, “In my last job we used to do this or that.” It undermines the will of the people in the new unit. Individuals do not want to hear what went on in the boss’ prior position a dozen times a day. It wears thin very quickly.

There is an antidote to this common problem. Early on, refer to the prior job only one time in public. Once you have played that chit, refrain from other references for at least two months. Appreciate the good things in the new area before giving a lot of suggestions.

5. Observe the informal organization and cliques

The culture of an organization is heavily influenced by the chemistry between individuals. You need to be alert to the “informal power structure.” It is operating in tandem with the formal organization.

You must know who the informal leaders are and begin a process to gain their trust. The sub-culture is extremely powerful, and it is often negative. Work slowly and carefully before taking any action with a clique of individuals. Ultimately, you can make great strides working with the informal leaders. You must first develop some credibility and trust.

6. Practice management by wandering around extensively until you are a known quantity

Many new leaders make the mistake of sequestering themselves in strategic meetings early on. That habit labels them as suspect and less transparent. Be open and out there for people to interface with daily. Extra time devoted to this activity, even if it means extra working hours, pays huge dividends.

7. Check your body language

Let people know you are truly happy to be there. Smile! Make sure all your body language reflects that of an appreciative and interested leader. Be sincere about getting to know the ropes before making important decisions.

Conclusion

Do these seven things during your first weeks of a new assignment. You will be on your way to a great tenure as a leader of the group. It is the first blink of an impression that makes the most difference to your future.

Bob Whipple is CEO of Leadergrow, Inc. an organization dedicated to growing leaders. He can be reached at bwhipple@leadergrow.com . Website http://www.leadergrow.com BLOG http://www.thetrustambassador.com He is author of the following books: The Trust Factor: Advanced Leadership for Professionals, Understanding E-Body Language: Building Trust Online, Leading with Trust is Like Sailing Downwind, and Trust in Transition: Navigating Organizational Change.




Executive Stress Antidote

November 21, 2023

You may need an executive stress antidote. Conditions in the world over the past few years have led to a much higher level of risk. If you are an executive, you may live in a very high-stress world.

The pressure for performance has caused health problems for numerous executives. The margin between success and failure is razor thin. Coupling that with a high degree of fluidity in working conditions makes the problem worse. It seems there is no way to avoid the incredible pressure executives face daily.

It is easy to feel powerless in a rut of never-ending expectations, not enough time, and frustrated co-workers. They go on with the same struggle daily, rarely gaining on the problems that are making them sick.

The Antidote

What if there was an executive stress antidote? You could get out from under the immense pressure and have the ability to relax. Would that be helpful?

There is a pathway to this kind of existence. The first step on the path is to acknowledge the problem and realize that continuing to live that way is untenable.

Step two is to realize that as a leader you have the power to make change. Take back that power, then commit to finding solutions.

There are always more solutions than you know, always another way. That new way is the antidote, but until you decide to make it a priority, you will remain stuck. Once you and your team commit to finding the antidote for your situation, everyone gets new power and inspiration.

The antidote involves carving out time to work with your organization to create an improved culture. Develop a new way of interacting, a new way of approaching the demands of the world. Committing to change, to a more successful approach to your challenges, opens the door to more productivity and success.

Document Behaviors

Investing in the culture means spending time with people learning how to work better as a team. It means documenting behaviors for how we treat each other to enable accountability. You must listen more often and more effectively to improve communication.

Building Trust

The executive stress antidote means learning to trust each other. More delegation is possible, and micromanagement is not necessary. The perceived need to micromanage creates a significant percentage of executive stress.

Be Vulnerable

Improving the culture means having the executive be more willing to be transparent and admit mistakes. This practice makes him or her more of a human being: subject to being vulnerable. It enables stronger rather than weaker leadership. The environment is relaxed and healthy.

Conclusion

Take back your power; commit to positive change. Reduce problems and replace them with sanity and the joy of achieving great goals together.

If you are an executive near the limit of endurance, try investing in the culture. It will have a much higher ROI than any other activity you can envision. It could even save your life!


Bob Whipple is CEO of Leadergrow, Inc. an organization dedicated to growing leaders. He can be reached at bwhipple@leadergrow.com. Website http://www.leadergrow.com BLOG http://www.thetrustambassador.com He is author of the following books: The Trust Factor: Advanced Leadership for Professionals, Understanding E-Body Language: Building Trust Online, and Leading with Trust is Like Sailing Downwind


Running Thin

November 4, 2023

I work with organizations all over my region, and they are all running thin. Over the past few years, I cannot recall a single entity where leaders believe they have enough workers. This habitual problem causes all kinds of operational issues, including burnout. Another problem is lower creativity.

A student in one of my MBA classes made a remarkable statement. She wrote, “Short staff think only inside the box.”

Knowing the “correct” level of staff is a tricky business for sure. Running thin can lead to employees screaming that they are totally overloaded. Later on, people would grumble about how most people are not pulling their fair share of the load. In truth, most organizations get only a small fraction of the discretionary effort inherent in the workforce. My estimate is that a typical organization these days extracts only about 30% of the capability of their workforce.

Some leaders use the amount of screaming for more resources as a guide to hiring. If the whining is not there, they figure the organization is running too fat. If people are complaining but toughing it out, they conclude things are about right. If people are becoming ill and if turnover is sky-high, they grudgingly agree to add more people.

Gauging the level of staff based on the complaint level is dangerous on both extremes. If things get so thin for an extended period, the best people will just leave. If you do not wait until people whine to hire people, then you are probably running a Country Club.

Back to my student’s comment on the impact that running thin has on creativity. I thought her observation was spot on. You can observe overworked people in numerous venues. According to many students, one typical place to see the stress is in nursing.

According to the Gallup Organization, the nursing occupation is the highest trusted occupation category of all. Nurses are normally so stacked up with critical tasks that they often don’t find time to eat. Trying to figure out creative solutions to problems is low on their priority list. I am only singling out nurses because it is easy to observe this situation. In reality, the problem occurs in numerous types of jobs.

In an effort to improve productivity, leaders stretch their resources like a rubber band. The problem is that if you do that, eventually you will exceed the elastic limit of the rubber. Running thin will permanently deform or just break the band.

People will do the requirements as best they can and not be very engaged in improving the conditions. They become case hardened and bitter. When people feel abused, they go into a survival mode, which severely limits productivity. The managers get exactly what they deserve. It becomes a vicious circle.

The antidote is to work on changing the culture. Improve the environment so that the current workforce is producing at a multiple of their prior productivity. That concept means working on trust rather than forcing existing people to work in a constant state of overload. It means investing in the resources you have, and maybe even adding some. Avoid continually cutting back in an effort to survive. You may survive in the short term, but your long-term prognosis is terminal.

When I suggest to leaders that they need to invest in their culture they get angry. I often see an incredulous or outraged look in return. “How can we possibly afford to work on our culture when everybody is already at the limit of their capability?” Well, you cannot unless you change your attitude about how people work. Try the alternate path. The road to long-term health and even survival is to have the right level of resources. That way you can invest in the culture and enjoy the benefits of higher trust.


Bob Whipple, MBA, CPTD, is a consultant, trainer, speaker, and author in the areas of leadership and trust. He is the author of: The Trust Factor: Advanced Leadership for Professionals, Understanding E-Body Language: Building Trust Online, Leading with Trust is Like Sailing Downwind, and Trust in Transition: Navigating Organizational Change. Bob has many years as a senior executive with a Fortune 500 Company and with non-profit organizations. For more information, or to bring Bob in to speak at your next event, contact him at http://www.Leadergrow.com, bwhipple@leadergrow.com



Creativity: Seven Pathways

October 28, 2023

I read a quotation in a student paper a while ago that was interesting. “Demanding creativity is like yanking on a seed to pull out the flower.” The optics in this quote really work for me.

I have been referred to as a creative person, and I even won an award for it once. If you stand over me with a scowl on your face, my creativity will dry up. It is like a drop of water in a red-hot frying pan.

Most people have a creative side that can be brought out if properly nurtured. The benefits of creativity and innovation are well documented. Unfortunately, while all leaders yearn for higher creativity, their behaviors often squash it.

This analysis provides some pathways to encourage more creativity that are simple and powerful. Here is a list of seven ways this can be accomplished:

1. Let people play – Natural creativity is closely linked to the concept of play. Just observe children who are about 3 years old. You will see some of the most creative people on the planet. Reason: The world has not yet taught them that certain things are impossible. They see clearly with their imagination and try everything.

2. Give them the tools – We typically use “Brainstorming” to get creative at work, yet the technique has been so watered down over the decades. Since it was invented, it has lost most of its potency. Put Brainstorming on steroids using Morphological Analysis. That is a technique where you put dissimilar concepts on two axes. Then, you brainstorm ideas at the intersections of the resulting matrix. The process forces the mind to conjure up connections that we habitually ignore.

3. Do not legislate – You cannot force creativity. By trying to nag people into getting creative, you can actually reduce the chances for novel ideas. Most people are more creative at specific times of the day. Allow people to pick the times when they experiment with new ideas.

4. Create an environment of innovation – This is done by encouraging people to tinker. Reward them when they come up with unusual approaches. If leaders in the organization overtly promote creative behavior, then it will spread.

5. Measure it – The old adage of “what gets measured gets done” is true for innovation. The measure can take the form of documented new procedures, patents, new product announcements, and many other forms. I once knew a manager who found a creative way to measure creativity. He placed a cork bulletin board in the hall with a fence around it. The sign on the board read “Sacred Cow Pasture.” Then there was an envelope full of silhouette cows made of different colored construction paper. Workers were encouraged to uncover a sacred cow, write it on the cut-out and pin it in the pasture. The management team would then set about eliminating the sacred cow.

6. Reward good tries – Not all ideas are a smashing success from the start. Leaders need to encourage people to try, even if there are failures along the way. The failures are really successes because they uncover other ways it will not work. This process points the direction to what eventually does work. Thomas Edison had to find nearly 10,000 things that did not work before he figured out the electric light. That kind of deep curiosity and dogged determination need to be rewarded. Impatience and a short-term mindset are the enemies of innovation.

7. Brag about your innovative culture in public – Point out the great creative work going on in all areas of the organization. People tend to get more excited about it. This leads a dramatic increase in innovation similar to spontaneous combustion in a pile of tinder.

The secret to innovation and growth is to develop a culture where creativity is nurtured rather than forced. Follow the seven tips above, and soon your organization will be known as one of the most innovative ones around.

Bob Whipple, MBA, CPLP, is a consultant, trainer, speaker, and author in the areas of leadership and trust. He is the author of: The Trust Factor: Advanced Leadership for Professionals, Understanding E-Body Language: Building Trust Online, and Leading with Trust is Like Sailing Downwind. Bob has many years as a senior executive with a Fortune 500 Company and with non-profit organizations. For more information, or to bring Bob in to speak at your next event, contact him at http://www.Leadergrow.com, bwhipple@leadergrow.com




Create a Great Culture

October 15, 2023

You have probably asked yourself, “How do people become motivated to perform at peak levels over a sustained period of time?” The problem has been confounded by the chaos of the pandemic.

Perhaps you found yourself considering incentive programs that reward people with money, vacations, or perhaps merchandise in an effort to motivate your employees.

The reality is, motivation comes from within each of us and is usually not generated by picnics or T-shirts. As a leader, do not seek to “motivate” your employees; rather, focus on building a culture of trust where individuals make the choice to become motivated.

Leaders also have the responsibility to create an environment that inspires and encourages employees so that they can feel their personal motivational processes are supported and valued.

Leaders can help create positive morale and motivation within their team, and within each individual employee simply by creating a corporate culture of trust and affection. By doing so, it will help employees become more internally motivated because they will:

Feel like a part of a winning team that respects and values all members for what they have to offer. This culture helps employees feel both intrinsic and extrinsic rewards when they are doing their best work.
Appreciate their co-workers and seek ways to help them physically and emotionally.
Understand the goals of the organization better and commit to help as much as they can in order to achieve the goals individually and as a team.
Enjoy the social interactions with people they work with and respect them as co-workers as well as friends.
Deeply respect their leaders and want them to be successful.
Feel like they are part owners of the company and hold themselves accountable.
Feel appreciated and recognized for their many contributions; this helps to increase self-esteem and confidence levels.

These advantages help generate a culture of respect and trust.

Creating this kind of culture

What is “culture” in an organization? Webster defines culture as the social structure and intellectual and artistic manifestations that characterize a society. For an organization, “culture” means how people interact, what they believe, and how they create success. If you could peel off the roof of a company, you would see the manifestations of the culture in the physical world. The actual culture is more esoteric because it resides in the hearts and minds of the corporate society, in addition to observable behaviors.

Achieving a state where all people are fully engaged is a large undertaking. It requires tremendous focus and leadership. It cannot be something you do on Tuesday afternoons or when you have special meetings. You need to see evidence of this in every nook and cranny of the organization.

Leaders Create Winners

At work, many people feel forced to endure an unfair world where they feel like a failure. In organizations of exceptional leadership, the exact opposite occurs. People enjoy their work because their leader has created a culture of “winners.” People become bonded together as a winning team, and joy and celebrations replace the drudgery of work. These are the lucky few that work in organizations where the leader understands how to leverage the small win.

Excellent leaders understand a key mission is to create this type of environment. They know that when they establish a culture of winners, the entire organization will prosper and win.

Personal success is defined, not in terms of wealth or power, but in doing worthwhile things. There are wealthy and powerful people who are utter failures, just as there are many successful people who have little money or fame. It is the journey, not the destination that embodies success.

Earl Nightingale in his program, “Lead the Field,” identified success as “the progressive realization of a worthy ideal” and later modified it to simply “the pursuit of a worthy goal.” Notice it is not achieving the goal or receiving awards for accomplishing amazing feats. Rather, success is in the pursuit.

When you reach a milestone, it is time to celebrate and feel good about what you accomplished, even if it is just a step in the right direction and not a final destination.

Once you have reached a major goal, immediately set out a course for the next increment of your life. If this new goal is worthy, the simple pursuit will mean you are successful.

This process will allow you and others around you to experience the elation of success every day. It is there in the fiber of daily living as long as a worthy goal is being pursued.

Teach this insight to everyone in your organization. It will take the drudgery and pressure away, adding joy in its place and helping with self-motivation and increased morale.

It is important for leaders to avoid trying to “motivate” workers. Motivation is not a magic pill that can be purchased with pizza parties or dress down days. Instead, leaders should focus on creating the environment where workers choose to motivate themselves because they work in an organization with a great culture that inspires them.


The preceding information was adapted from the book The TRUST Factor: Advanced Leadership for Professionals, by Robert Whipple. It is available on http://www.leadergrow.com.

Robert Whipple is also the author of Leading with Trust is like Sailing Downwind and, Understanding E-Body Language: Building Trust Online. Bob consults and speaks on these and other leadership topics. He is CEO of Leadergrow Inc. a company dedicated to growing leaders.
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Reducing Drama

October 8, 2023

I once participated in an interesting discussion in an online leadership class. Students were lamenting that drama in the workplace is common and very disruptive to good teamwork.

The impetus for drama is more apparent in the confusing post-pandemic era. It is easy for some people to feel there are unfair rules.

Drama is really just part of the human condition. I am sure you have experienced unwanted drama and wished there were ways to reduce it.

First, one precaution: there are different kinds of drama and many different symptoms and sources. In this article, I am discussing the most common kind of drama in the workplace. This is where people act out their daily frustrations. They create chaos and loss of focus. Also, they hurt the productivity, effectiveness, and teamwork of the group. I am not addressing the serious drama caused by mental illness or tragic events.

Let’s take a look at the seeds of this problem to identify some mitigating strategies. Drama is often a result of people who feel they are not being heard. If an individual believes his or her opinions are valued, then there is less need for drama. When the culture is real and trusting, then people are not playing games with each other. The distractions of drama will likely be reduced.

It is a function of leaders to establish a culture of high trust. People see little need for drama to be a vital part of the real action. Here are some tips that leaders can use to reduce drama in their organizations:

1. Improve the level of trust. High trust groups respect people. There is a feeling of inclusiveness that does not require high profile actions to get attention.

2. Anticipate needs. Be proactive at sensing when people need to be heard. Provide the opportunity for dialog before they become frustrated.

3. Respect outliers. When someone’s view is contrary to the majority, there may be valid points to consider. Do not ignore the valuable insights of all people.

4. Hear people out and consider their input seriously. Positive body language is essential to show respect for all people.

5. Work on your own humility. Climbing down off your pedestal means that you are more willing to be on an equal footing with others.

6. Admit mistakes. You gain respect when you are honest about the blunders that you make. People will feel less like acting out in response if they see you willing to be vulnerable.

7. Reinforce people well. Providing sincere praise is one way to show respect. This reduces people’s tendency to say “Hey don’t forget about me over here.”

We must also realize that some people are world-class at creating drama. For these people, it is a kind of sport. They do it to gain inappropriate attention or just to be disruptive.

These people need coaching to let them know their antics are not really helping drive the goals of the organization. The leader needs to provide feedback about the issue and set the expectation of improvement. If the drama continues, then the person may be better off in some other organization.

Drama is all around most of us daily. Good leadership can mitigate the negative impact and keep bad habits from becoming an organizational albatross.

Bob Whipple, MBA, CPTD, is a consultant, trainer, speaker, and author in the areas of leadership and trust. He is the author of: The Trust Factor: Advanced Leadership for Professionals, Understanding E-Body Language: Building Trust Online, Leading with Trust is Like Sailing Downwind, and Trust in Transition. Bob has many years as a senior executive with a Fortune 500 Company and with non-profit organizations. For more information, or to bring Bob in to speak at your next event, contact him at http://www.Leadergrow.com.


Building Higher Trust 132 Building Trust When Your Boss Doesn’t

September 29, 2023

What can you do if your boss isn’t building trust? In my work with leaders who are trying to build higher trust, I often hear the following complaint. A manager will say, “Your material is excellent, but my boss does things that destroy trust almost daily.”

This conundrum is not as rare as you might think. It is actually a common problem.

Tips on building trust when your boss doesn’t

Recognize you are not alone

Nearly every company is under extreme pressure these days.  The condition was exacerbated by the recent pandemic. Coming out of the pandemic lockdown, many leaders forced attendance rules on a population that was not receptive. These rigid rules lowered trust in many organizations.

When your boss isn’t building trust, it is difficult to fix

My favorite quote on this problem is attributed to George Bernard Shaw. “Never wrestle a pig. You get all muddy and the pig loves it.” The best approach is to suggest that approaches do exist that can produce better results.

You might suggest some leadership training, but that direct approach will likely backfire.  Most managers with low emotional intelligence have a huge blind spot. They simply do not recognize themselves as the source of their problems.

Book review lunch club

One approach that sometimes helps is to form a lunch and learn group where everyone, including the boss, is given some training. It helps if the boss gets to nominate the first couple of books for review.

Don’t whine that the boss is clueless

Complaining does not help people in the organization feel better.

Operate a high-trust operation in the environment you influence

Lead by example. Establish a great culture of trust within your group. Demonstrate the power of an excellent culture for all to see. Keep a positive attitude, even though it can be tough at times. Groups that enjoy high trust are usually upbeat and positive. They are also more than twice as productive.

Conclusion

If your boss is not an expert at building a high-trust organization you have a tricky situation. Considering the boss as the enemy will take you in the wrong direction. Use the tips above to make notable progress in your culture. Everyone will thank you for it.

Bob Whipple, MBA, CPTD, is a consultant, trainer, speaker, and author in the areas of leadership and trust.  He is the author of: The Trust Factor: Advanced Leadership for Professionals, Understanding E-Body Language: Building Trust Online, and Leading with Trust is Like Sailing Downwind.  Bob has many years as a senior executive with a Fortune 500 Company and with non-profit organizations.  For more information, or to bring Bob in to speak at your next event, contact him at www.Leadergrow.com, bwhipple@leadergrow.com or 585.392.7763.


Leadership Barometer 205 Monitor Stress Levels

July 19, 2023

Every leader should have a “check engine light” to monitor stress levels. To say that leaders have been under unusual stress over the past three years would be a huge understatement.

The function of a check engine light

When something is wrong with the engine in your car, it is not always evident to you.  The car seems to be performing normally. There is a problem lurking under the hood that will eventually need attention. The check engine light comes on so you can get it checked out before a catastrophic failure occurs.

My own experience

For a couple of years in my mid-career, I was dealing with too many stressors in my life.  My parents, who lived three hours away, were elderly and needed attention every week.  My workload just went up by 30% as I inherited three large departments making a total of twelve reporting to me. There were some health situations in my family that were scary. My home needed some repairs and a fresh coat of paint, but I had no time.

I honestly did not feel as though the stresses were too much for me to handle. I was “toughing it out” on a daily basis. Then, one morning after eating a bowl of cereal, I stood up and collapsed onto the floor. Later that day I checked my blood pressure at a health station at work. It was off the charts.

How I monitor stress levels

I started using blood pressure as a surrogate for my own check engine light.  I read my pressure several times each morning. I throw away the high number and the low number and average the rest.  That becomes a point on a graph that I have been maintaining for over 20 years.

Over 90 percent of the time I am within a small range in good control.  Occasionally, for no apparent reason, the chart will bounce up to an abnormal range for several days.  I am not aware of anything driving the change, but because of the signal, I can investigate.  Usually, I can identify the source of additional stress and eliminate it.  For example, I might be taking some antibiotics because of an infection.  I might be dealing with a membership issue in a volunteer organization.  I may be concerned because a trusted friend is acting irrationally. 

The cause is usually apparent

Whatever the cause, I soon figure out the reason for my change in condition.  Once I know the problem, it is normally an easy fix, and my pressure returns to the historic average. 

Conclusion

I recommend some form of a check engine light for all professionals.  It does not need to be blood pressure. Some people monitor their weight, others have a spouse tell them when they seem off the deep end. The idea is to have some signal that taps you on the shoulder when things are abnormal. It can save your life.

 

Bob Whipple, MBA, CPLP, is a consultant, trainer, speaker, and author in the areas of leadership and trust.  He is the author of: Trust in Transition: Navigating Organizational Change, The Trust Factor: Advanced Leadership for Professionals, Understanding E-Body Language: Building Trust Online, Leading with Trust is Like Sailing Downwind, and Trust in Transition: Navigating Organizational Change.  Bob has many years as a senior executive with a Fortune 500 Company and with non-profit organizations.  For more information, or to bring Bob in to speak at your next event, contact him at www.Leadergrow.com, bwhipple@leadergrow.com or 585.392.7763

 

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